The last time we talked, I took you on a trip down memory lane by revisiting the story of the tortoise and the hare. I challenged you to not be the hare and rethink how you approach weight loss and maintenance. The hare was short-sighted and that ultimately costs him the race. Don't let that be your story. (Click here to read part 1.)
Today, we pick up where we left off by concluding our discussion on inconsistency and revealing the third fatal flaw. Grab a cup of tea, have a seat, and take this in – it is about to get real.
Inconsistency – Part 2:
Here is the problem: Inconsistency is a sneaky son of a gun. He enters your life without you even realizing that he is there. To break the cycle you must learn how to recognize him and stop him in his tracks.
Have you ever heard a little voice in the back of your head say something like “I’ve been so good, I can afford to slack off a little” or “I’ve had a long day. I’m going to skip the gym today and get an extra one in this weekend.” What about “I know eating my eating has been a little off this week, but going overboard here and there won’t hurt.” Sound famillar? Don't worry; I've heard those voices too and gave in more times than I care to admit. Now I know better.
Here's what I've learned: a streak of good performance – whether it is a week, month, or a year – can be dangerous. Success sometimes tricks us into thinking we’ve arrived. We believe we are "fixed" and start making concessions. Those concessions are what set us up to fail. Things like deciding to eat a bag of chips with your salad, picking up the old habit of dipping into the office candy jar, or deciding to skip a planned workout or two. Its seems so harmless at the time but all the while the subtle process of self-sabotage has begun. Momentum is going in the wrong direction and it's only a matter of time before disaster strikes.
Stop letting yourself off the hook! I know - it can't be that simple. But think about it, succeeding isn't always complex; many times the solution is simple. It's the execution of that solution that is not so easy! So if you have trouble holding yourself accountable, ask someone you trust to be your accountability partner or hire a coach. But whatever you do don’t listen to the voice; he is a trickster.
Lack of Focus:
We all have goals that we want to achieve, but let’s face it; it can be difficult to hang in there for the long haul. We start off with good intentions but can’t seem to follow through and stay focused for very long.
Confession: I stink at it too.
My ability to focus on health and fitness is pretty high but make no mistake about it there are areas I'm not so disciplined in. Why is it that I am able to be successful in one area but not the other? The truth: Sometimes I think like a sprinter when I should be thinking like a marathon runner. Sigh. It all comes down to endurance.
It's tempting to think that people that are successful in an area that we are struggling with have some incredible superpowers. Or that what they do must be so different and so far-fetched that we can’t possibility hope to replicate it. But is that conclusion is flawed.
Those that are successful in health and fitness feel the same boredom and lack of motivation that everyone else feels. They don’t wake up inspired and excited every day. Some days they don’t want to do their workout or eat healthy just like everyone else (ask me how I know!). What makes them successful is their ability to stay focused despite how they feel. They've learned not to give their emotions a vote.
Anyone can work hard when they feel motivated. Much fewer can stay focused when they are bored, when the work is hard, or when they’re not getting the results they want. Are you willing to work even when the scale doesn’t reward you? Life has taught me that it’s your ability to work when work isn’t easy that makes the difference.
Accept that success is a process not an event. If you take a closer look at the people that are successful in losing the weight and keeping it off, what really sets them apart is their commitment to the process. They fell in love with the process of eating healthy and exercising consistently, not because they loved the work but because they loved how the process made them look and feel.
The Bottom Line
If you want to join the winner’s circle and lose it for life, you have to fall in love with the process of becoming a better you. It’s not just about getting it done, you must want to become. It's about becoming the type of person that does the work. It's not enough to dream about the result. Dreams only work if you do.
I must confess, I haven't fallen head over heals in love with the process of changing in the areas I am struggling in (yet), but I'm working on it and my coach is guiding me through the process.
Why do I have a coach? Well, I've come to realize that the only way to stop going around and around in circles is to summon up the courage to get off of the merry go 'round. The problem: even though I'm tired of going in circles, it's not so easy to get off. As crazy as it sounds, it's actually easier in some ways to stay put because it's comfortable. I need someone to nudge me and hold my hand while I step down. I love working with someone who's already been where I want to go; it's a big part of why I am making progress.
If you'd like someone to hold your hand - someone who has been where you are and found a way out - help is just a click away. Click here.
Let's get this done in 2015,
"You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can
change your direction overnight."
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40-something who loves food, fitness, and fun!