Let me ask you, do you...
...like the direction your life is going in?
...enjoy the relationships you are in and the people you are attracting?
...wake up to a job or business that fuels your passion?
...love the way you look and how your clothes fit?
...enjoy the peace of mind that comes from spiritual wealth?
If your answer is NO to any of these questions and instead you are feeling stuck, drained, unattractive, or disconnected, it is not because you are incapable of achieving more. It is because you need to make a different decision.
Staying in a job you hate is a decision.
Staying in a relationship that is not working and not actively trying to improve it is a decision.
Staying in a body you are not proud of is a decision.
Staying spiritually disconnected is a decision.
If you do not like where you are, make a different decision.
Start a new career search or begin writing the business plan.
Start speaking up for yourself and setting emotional boundaries (remember, you teach people how to treat you).
Start eating better, practicing portion control, and making exercise a priority.
Start investing time in daily prayer and devotion.
Is it going to be easy? No, but it is doable. Many with less time and fewer resources than you have done it. You can do it too. You just have to decide to.
You have to make a conscious choice to swap your P's. You have to choose to stop being passive and start being proactive.
The future favors the bold.
If you know what you need to do and just have not done it, be like Nike and JUST DO IT. And if you are not sure how or where to start, let’s talk.
But whatever you do, please do not let another day pass without you making that courageous decision. Indecision may seem easier, but it is costing you your freedom. As Jim Rohn says, "indecision is the thief of opportunity."
P.S. Choosing not to reach out for help is also a decision - a decision that robs you of your future. Don't make that mistake again.
How are things going? Are you still focused on your weight loss and fitness goals? I hope you are still ON FIRE about getting it done this year. I am rooting for you!
If you are starting to struggle a bit or could just use some encouragement to continue your journey, today's motivational moment was designed just for you.
Sometimes making the investment in healthy living can feel more like a BIG sacrifice and there is nothing exciting about sacrifices.
But what if your mindset moved from "have to" to "want to"? Imagine what could happen if you really wanted to eat healthier and workout more and you did not have to fight so much to get it done. That would be a game changer, wouldn't it?
Click here to make that mindset shift in less than 2 minutes.
I'd love to hear your answer to the question "why". Comment and let me know what comes to mind.
Until next time,
If you are not driving, I want you to take a moment and close your eyes.
Are your eyes closed? Okay good.
Now I want you to imagine, to get a mental picture in your head of the car you’ve always wanted but can’t quite afford yet. Your DREAM car!
Imagine that the exact model you want with all of the bells and whistles is on the lot right now and God has blessed you tremendously. You are in the office signing the paperwork and the best part is… You’re paying CASH!
Now imagine yourself getting into that car as an owner for the first time.
How does it feel?
How do you feel?
You are loving it right!
Alright now imagine a few days have passed and you’ve been all over the place because you LOVE your new car. It’s time to get some gas.
You pull into your gas station of choice, figure out what side of the car the tank is on and park your brand new luxury machine!
You get out of the car and walk up to the pump and there are three choices 87 regular, 89 mid grade and 93 premium. You remember that the sales person warned you that this very expensive vehicle you purchased runs best on 93 gas. In fact, if you use anything else it may affect your brand new ride’s performance.
Alright, you may open your eyes.
I have a question for you…What kind of gas did you put in your new ride?
Now of course I don’t know this for sure, but I’m guessing you chose 93 right? Why? Because you LOVE, adore and appreciate your new car! Right? And because you value it and the investment you made in it, the work the manufacturer did to design it, so that it looks and performs exactly like you like it, you treat it a certain way right?!
I am also guessing that there are other things would you do to take care of your dream car besides put quality gas in it? You know, things like getting the oil changed on time, taking it for scheduled maintenance checks, etc. Right?
I want you to challenge you to see the parallels between the analogy and your health and wholeness journey. Now instead of BMW, Mercedes, Lexus or Acura, God is the manufacturer of this top of the line, luxury, dream machine AKA your body. How proud he must have been in his creation! He was intricately involved he was in its design.
Unlike his other creations detailed in Genesis we are the ONLY creation that he touched. Genesis 2:7 recounts “Then the LORD God formed the man from the dust of the ground. He breathed the breath of life into the man's nostrils, and the man became a living person.” He SPOKE everything else into existence and NONE of the other creations were made in his image. You are special, and just like Lexus and Acura beam with pride each time a new model comes out, God beams with every child that is born. To Him, you are a priceless creation!
Now, with this new found perspective of how WONDERFUL you are – how God sees you…
Until next time,
"Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do! And whatever else you do, develop good judgment."
~Proverbs 4:7 NLT
Of all of the topics pertaining to weight loss and fitness, my favorite thing to study is the science of motivation. Why? Because I know from personal experience that knowing does not always equate with doing. I knew that baked was better than fried, that water was a 100 times better than soda, and that bringing lunch from home was a much better call than eating fast food every day. I knew better, but that knowledge did not inspire me to do better (at least not at first). For 8 years, I kept doing the same old thing over and over and over again. Can you identify?
The cold hard truth: Many times we know exactly what we should be doing. We just don't do it.
The question is...WHY?
Charles Duhigg, New York Times reporter and author of The Power of Habit, sheds light on the subject. He contends:
"Most of the choices we make each day may feel like they are products of well-considered decision-making, but they are not. They are habits."
Did you catch that? Most (about 60-70%) of the time, we are NOT consciously making decisions. Nope. We are simply operating on auto-pilot. That explains a lot, doesn't it? If I were to boil it all down, my main problem is that I am sleepwalking through my decisions, so much so that they are not really decisions at all!
Charles goes on to say something really powerful: changing the unwanted behavior starts with identifying the cue(s).
According to Duhigg, cues tend to fall into one of five buckets
• Location (ex. at work)
• Time of day (ex. 3 pm or after lunch)
• Emotions and Feelings (ex. tired)
• Social Environment (ex. co-workers that are food pushers)
• Preceding Action (ex. someone offered me a cookie)
So for the rest of the week, I challenge you to start paying more attention to your location, the time of day, any emotions or feelings you are experiencing, your social environment, and what happened immediately before you felt the urge to cheat on your diet or skip the gym.
My clients that take these types of exercises seriously experience breakthrough. I believe it is possible for you too.
Write notes in your journal the rest of the week and let me know what you learn!
Until next time,
Say that you and your best friend are both on a 1,600 calorie per day diet.
You built your 1,600 calorie diet using mostly lean protein, veggies, fruit, and little healthy fat.
Your friend chose LOTS of sugar, rice, bread, pasta, crackers etc., but the calories still add up to 1,600 at the end of the day.
Would you lose weight at the same rate? Would you both look lean and toned?
Calories in, calories out, right?
The truth is our bodies treat protein, fat, and carbohydrate calories very differently so you and friend will look very different 6 months from now. YOU will be a lot leaner than your friend.
Bread, pasta, crackers, and even some sugars are NOT the enemy but too much of a good thing is...well...too much of a good thing!
So if you are putting in the work, stay the course. Staying "on point" WILL maximize your results. The types of foods you eat and the portion sizes DO matter. So aim to stay on track 80%-90% of the time.
Until next time,
This week I challenge you to remember two things:
1. Your Why.
2. Your Where.
Why did you start this journey towards health and wholeness in the first place? Go back to that moment that triggered the “enough is enough.” Feel that emotion and let it inspire you to keep fighting.
Where do you want to go? I know sometimes it seems like the distance from point A to point B is an eternity away but today I don’t want you to concentrate on the pain; I challenge you to focus on the promise. The promise of a new day and of a new life.
“This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind...let it be something good.” ~Unknown
The choices you make (or don’t make) today ARE important. Choose wisely.
In what ONE area could you make different choices and get better results?
Let’s have a great week!
"You will never rise above your level of belief and self-esteem."
I want you to be successful. I want you to have everything in life you are supposed to have so today, I am going to share with you one of my own personal success secrets. If you apply it consistently for the next 7 days, you will position yourself for great things.
The Power of the Morning Mantra
For as long as I can remember, I've been taught "you have what you say." It's an age old biblical principle that has made its way into modern culture and for good reason.
"It's not so important what others say about you, it's what YOU
say about you that really counts."
What have YOU been saying about you up until this point? Have you been encouraging yourself? Challenging yourself? Motivating yourself? If the answer is no or if you haven't settled into a rhythm of doing this consistently, I want to help you get your mind right by sharing my "morning mantra" with you.
Click here to access my Morning Mantra.
Repeat after me every day for the next 7 days and watch how your attitude changes!
Seriously, it takes less than 1 minute to say the morning mantra so say it with me daily okay? You'll be glad you did.
Keep pushing FORWARD!
No one is perfect; we all veer from our chosen path on occasion. But what if it's more than an occasional issue? What if it happens again and again? And as hard as you try, you seem to keep finding yourself in the same situation over and over again?
I've been that person. On a mission to change my life one moment and completely off course the next. I wanted things to be different, but like the driver of an out-of-control car, I didn't know how to regain control. I was all over the place. One minute I was trying Weight Watchers and hitting the gym. The next minute I was undoing everything I'd worked so hard for by consistently making bad food choices. When I saw a Mrs. Fields Cookies in the mall, I couldn't seem to pass them up. When I had a bad day at work, I skipped the gym and went home. Things seemed so out of balance, so far off course, that I wasn't even sure I could gain control again. So, I gave up. I quit. I threw in the towel. It looked and felt like an impossible situation, so I figured, "why try?”
Have you been having “why try” moments?
If your answer is "yes", you owe it to yourself to click here for this week's Monday Motivation from someone who knows a thing or two about ups and downs.
Be encouraged and NEVER give up,
Every year the church that I attend adopts a theme and a few years ago the theme was “healthy & whole.”
Prior this theme being introduced by our pastor, I hadn’t really thought much about the difference between the two words. But there IS a distinct difference.
Health is defined as the absence of illness, disease or injury. Synonyms include well-being, good shape, strength, vigor, wellness, and one of my personal favorites, fitness. One can be healthy and not be whole.
While there have been great strides in my spiritual, physical, and emotional health, I must confess that I am still on the journey to wholeness. Why do I say that? Well…
If you were to look up whole in the dictionary you’d find that whole is an adjective or descriptive word.
The whole truth and nothing but the truth.
You'd have to know the whole story.
It seems the whole weight loss company is a sham.
In each of these examples, whole speaks to all of it or the entire thing.
Synonyms: complete, full, unabridged, and uncut
A secondary definition in an unbroken or undamaged state; in one piece.
Synonyms: intact, in one piece, unmarked, perfect
Antonyms: fragmented, halfway
So I say that I am still on the journey to wholeness because there are still areas of my life that are a work in progress. I have a feeling I’m not the only one that lives on incomplete street…
• We’re a rock star at work but to meet deadlines we eat poorly and don’t exercise and that “success” ends up costing us our health.
• Our ministry is growing by leaps and bounds but our relationships are falling apart.
• In public we seem like the life of the party but behind closed doors we cry ourselves to sleep at night.
• We’re succeeding at taking care of others but failing miserably at taking care of ourselves.
The Whole Truth is that we’re so busy going and doing, that we spend very little time being. We are not in touch with who we really are, what we are feeling, or what we are missing.
But today, you landed here because God wants YOU healthy AND whole.
John 10: 10 the New International Version reads “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” Full, if you’ll remember, is a synonym for whole.
What does a full life look like? I believe it is one where we…
Today I challenge you to do 3 things:
That last part is so important because it’s easy to rush out and put together a plan of action without consulting Him. But Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us…
Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.
Family, you don’t have to stay where you are. You CAN change. Ask Him to show you the way. A healthy and whole life awaits.
Until next time,
This is one of my favorite coffee mugs because it reminds me that my journey doesn’t have to be perfect... and that’s an important thing for you to keep top of mind because NO ONE is perfect.
My pastor recently preached a sermon that reminded us that God doesn’t expect us to be perfect but rather to be faithful. I was so struck by that statement that I took the time to look up the word...
true, devoted, staunch, implies qualities of stability, dependability, and devotion and steadfast fidelity to whatever one is bound to by a pledge, duty, or obligation.
Today I ask you to reflect:
Are you being FAITHFUL to your dream to become healthy and whole?
Again that doesn't mean that your journey has been perfect. Faithful is falling down and getting back up, faithful is refusing to quit, faithful is putting one step in front of the other and never giving up.
The bottom line:
Setbacks are a part of the journey. What separates those who succeed from those who don't is mindset. Successful people don't allow themselves to stay stuck because their dream will not let them quit. That is faithfulness at its finest!
Are you still in it to win it? On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your faithfulness to your dream of being healthy and fit?
Until next time,
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