Back in the day, I dreaded entering big rooms like this. I always felt like a fish out of water. Sure, my hair would be tight and my clothes neatly pressed as I entered but the confidence still wasn’t there.
I was reasonably intelligent, had a decent vocabulary thanks to my professors at Va Tech (go Hokies!), could keep up a conversation about sports, and always had an opinion but I still had issues with these types of settings. The “weight” I was carrying made the entrance especially intimidating.
It wasn’t so much that the extra 100 pounds that I was carrying was the problem. It was how I FELT about the extra weight that was my undoing. I felt like I had a scarlet letter on my back and it affected how I entered the room, who I tried to converse with, and how long I stayed.
Everyone has vices and imperfections, but not all are tangible or visible. A woman who cheats on her husband, has a bad temper, or is a nag cannot easily be distinguished from one who does not until you spend some time with her. A woman who is overweight or obese walks around with a scarlet letter over her head. Regardless of her true condition, the dialogue in our culture is often that she is lazy, less competent and lacking in self-discipline. Everyone sees her problem and judges the root cause, but no one knows her story or sees her struggle.
So as I watch women enter the room, I wonder if any feel as I did?
“Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.”
~1 Thessalonians 5:18
I do not know about you, but executing 1 Thessalonians 5:18 is a challenge for me. It is easy to be thankful when life is good and you feel great about your progress in your journey to health and wholeness. It is a whole ‘nother story when everything seems to be crumbling and your progress is hit and miss.
The good news is we are on a journey with God. He knows we will not get it right every day. But because He loves us, He sends us reminders like this one to get us back on course.
Today, I am sharing one of my favorite poems on attitude. It is my go to when I know I need an attitude adjustment and sometimes I read it “just in case” I do but do not realize it :). I pray it is a blessing to you.
I am your master...
I can make you rise or fall.
I can make you
a success or failure.
I can work for or against you.
I control your
feelings and actions.
I can make your
heart sing with happiness.
I can make you
wretched, dejected, or morbid.
I can make you
angry and resentful.
I can make you lonely,
discouraged or depressed.
I can make you sick, listless.
I can be a shackle,
heavy and burdensome.
I can be a prism's hue,
dancing bright and colorful.
I can be nurtured and
grown to be beautiful.
I can never be removed,
I am your attitude!
Could making an attitude adjustment towards your work, family, or personal life positively influence your eating and exercise goals?
Until next time,
Ever wonder why you find yourself staring at the same problem over and over again? You are not alone. It's not at all uncommon, in fact it's almost inevitable. Allow me to explain.
Back in my days as a corporate trainer, I taught this course about the fundamentals of selling. One of the key principles I taught was "the past predicts the future." The concept was simple: Ask questions about the what and the why of customer's past buying decisions, because chances were that the very same drivers and motivations would play a role in their present buying decisions. It seemed that 9 times out of 10 that was exactly the case. I was in my mid 20s then and didn't quite understand the profound nature of what I was teaching. Now with another 14 years of life experience under my belt, I get it, I really get it.
It's so much easier to keep doing what we've always been doing. After all, things seem to be working out okay... until they don't. Then one day you look up and wonder "how did I get here?" You resolve to do differently by putting in place some new systems (that killer new meal plan or workout regimen) and routines (I'll plan and prepare my meals on Sundays and track with MyFitnessPal), but you keep finding yourself back at the same place over and over again. It's frustrating. You hate it. But you feel powerless to change it. I have good news: you can change it, if you are willing to change.
All human beings, regardless of race, ethnicity, educational background, financial status, or religion, have a common tendency: to act out of habit. Sure we deliberate over some decisions, but more often than not, we just do what we do without even thinking about it. Most of the time that works out okay and we keep doing it. But what about when it doesn't work out okay? There are some patterns in our lives that we cannot afford to repeat. There are some things that have allowed to enslave us that we must break free of. We know this pattern is sabotaging our success. We know it's holding us back from all that we were born to be and achieve. But how do we go from where we are now, to where we want to be? Choose the hard over the easy.
It's easy to say things are going to be different. It's easy to set goals. It's easy to acquire tools and resources that better position you for success. But if you don't take the time, to dissect your past decisions the outcome will eventually and assuredly be the same. You've got to choose the hard over the easy.
It's hard to look back on our past and have the courage to acknowledge the thought processes and habits that no longer serve us. But that is where the magic happens.
Take the time to remember and understand your mistakes or face the inevitable: you will habitually and subconsciously repeat them. Choosing the hard over the easy; that is what sets us free.
We tend to think of stress as bad but really it's necessary! Stress is simply a behavioral adjustment to change. The only people that don't ever stress are those who play it safe and never take risks (not even calcuated ones)...and I know you are not one of those people! You're a go getter and as a result, stress comes with the territory.
The problem is most people feel as though they have EXCESS (too much) stress:
When life comes at you fast, you've got to de-stress! But how? According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, we typically release stress in one or more of the following ways:
The Case for Exercise – What Makes Exercise Different from the Other Five
Keys to Using Exercise as a Release
So if you've had a rough day, get changed and lace up your sneakers. Let exercise be your healthy escape!
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