Like it or not 2019 will be here in 88 DAYS. Are you ready to finish the year strong?
I want to see you #win so I’m going to let you in on a “must have” if you want to be successful…
Daily Success Rituals.
I know. You would prefer to “go with the flow”, and “play it by ear” because spontaneity is “fun” and a routine is “boring” but here's the deal: daily habits are what separate goal setters from goal getters (no that’s not a typo).
You see, most of the valuable things in your life – your health, relationships, career growth, spiritual life, etc. – are important but not urgent.
There no immediate consequence if you don’t:
Because these things aren’t screaming for your attention, it is VERY easy to neglect them in favor of the urgent (and in the grand scheme of things) less important. Urgent is very good at sucking up all of our time and energy so that there is nothing left to work on the important things.
That is why you MUST put practical processes and systems (i.e. daily success rituals) in place!
Practical Processes show you how you get from point A to point B.
Systems are routines to ensure you follow through.
You see experience has taught me that you can know where you want to go (i.e. vision, dreams, goals) and you can have the tools and resources you need to be successful (ex. meal and exercise plan), but if you don't outline HOW you will get it done week in and week out and put routines in place to ensure you follow through, nothing changes.
For example, if your goal is to lose 15-20 pounds by year-end, you will need the following routines AT MINIMUM:
Which of the above routines do you have? Which ones do you need to develop?
Until next time,
Tamara "Coach Tam" Jackson used to be 100 pounds overweight but learned how to lose weight and feel great without spending hours at the gym or giving up the foods she loves. You can do it too! Schedule your free weight loss strategy call at:http://bit.ly/freechatwithtam
If you find that you are consistently not getting in your meal planning and workouts it is probably NOT a question of desire. No, you WANT to adopt a healthy lifestyle and receive all the benefits that come along with it…
• Balanced blood sugar and insulin levels (no more Metformin)
• Increased good cholesterol and lower bad cholesterol (bye bye Atorvastatin)
• Blood pressure naturally decreases (we are through Zofenopril)
• Improved memory and less brain fog (so that you sound as brilliant when you open your mouth as you do in your head)
• Increased energy levels (to do the things you WANT to do, not just what you have to do)
• Higher quality and longer restorative sleep (so that you go to bed with satisfaction and wake up with determination)
• Decreased anxiety and mood swings (so that somebody loves you besides your momma and daddy 😊).
Oh yeah, and the benefit of maintaining a healthy weight so that you no longer FEEL…
• Out of place when you walk into a room of “movers and shakers”
• Self-conscious when you apply for jobs or are in intimate situations
• Like your life is a car spinning out of control
• Afraid that you are getting to a point where it is too far gone and too little too late
• Scared beyond words of dying early (and knowing that there was something that you could have done to stop it)
No, it is not an issue of desire, but of PRIORITIZATION.
We are constantly taught to value other’s needs - at work, at home, and in ministry - above our own and while I agree that we have a duty – an obligation – to show the love of Christ – I do not believe that the message is ALWAYS put yourself last on the list. That was NOT Jesus’ example.
Jesus did a lot of traveling. He taught. He preached. He healed. He responded to the crowds with compassion.
He delegated (to the disciples), told people no or wait, took time to get away and pray, and at times, told the crowds to go away!
We must stop seeing self-care as self-ish because when we believe it is selfish to take care of ourselves, we will not prioritize the things that nourish us.
So please, take some time for yourself this weekend. Do something YOU want to do for you. Whether it’s getting in a workout, picking up some fruits and veggies, sleeping in, having extended prayer and devotion, or spending some time in the great outdoors, put yourself at the top of your to-do list for once, okay?
Trust, I needed the reminder just as much as you. I too am a #workinprogress.
Until next time,
“Teacher, which is the most important commandment in the law of Moses?” Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself."
~Matthew 22:36-39 (NLT)
Happy Wednesday !
I am sure when you read this passage of scripture you get the “the love the Lord your God” part and the “love your neighbor" part but did you notice that this scripture challenges us to love ourselves?
I know that is not how this passage is typically taught. I am often challenged on this statement. The argument most often is that we do not need to worry about loving ourselves because humans are inherently selfish. But here's the thing: selfishness is NOT self-love so when I say that this scripture is teaching us an important principle about self-love, I am not talking about being selfish.
Here is what I believe: Jesus wants us to love others in the same way that He does - an agape kind of love. From what I have studied, agape love is not about putting everyone else's needs ahead of yours to the point of physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion. Nor is agape love is not about stroking egos, making people feel good or giving them everything they want (and feeling guilty when you don't or can't).
Agape love is the love that Christ demonstrated towards us, a love that prioritizes what is good for the person and their development, not what feels good. He does not always give us what we want and as my mom is famous for saying "He prioritizes our character over our comfort." If that is true, (I see countless examples in my life and I am sure you do too), then loving others properly - in a way that furthers God's plan for their life - requires that I learn to love myself in the same way. You see, we can only give what we have. If I have an unhealthy view of self-love (i.e. selfishness or completely selfless), the love I give to others will be unhealthy too.
Just like Algebra must precede Calculus, you must learn to love yourself before you can properly love others. That means learning to do what is in your ultimate best interest even when it does not feel good or is inconvenient. When you can do that, you will love others in that way and:
You see, having goals, speaking up for yourself, and knowing what you need to do to be successful is not selfish and always pushing your goals to the side for others is not healthy. In Christian circles, it is easy to deem selflessness as the ultimate form of kindness, but that is not what Jesus modeled for us.
So I challenge the assertion that in order to be a "good Christian" we have to run around like a chicken with our heads cut off meeting other people's needs and always sacrificing our own. Now, hopefully, you do too.
Again, I'm not here to throw shade. I am on a journey with God too. You pray for me and I'll pray for you.
Until next time,
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Today I’m in RoboCop mode trying to clean up the condo. My homegirl and I are hanging out later tonight and quite honestly, the house is a mess after traveling 2 weeks in a row and then hosting #ItsAllAboutMeWeek. I prefer a clean house but when I considered the 40-50 hour work week plus the 20ish hours I put into #265Point each week and my need for #Sabbath and fellowship, it was clear something had to go. I COULDN’T DO IT ALL. But I used to try.
You see #SuperWomanSyndrome says you can be everywhere and do everything as if there is an endless stream of time and energy. That is a LIE. Everyone from MLK Jr. to Mother Theresa to Barack Obama had the limitation of time – they all got 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year. And, as much as God loved His only son, he too got 24/7/365 to fulfill His call. The bottom line: The issue is not how much time we have but what we choose to do with it.
Earlier this year, I hung up my SuperWoman cape because the expectations that come with that job are unrealistic. Instead, I claim the title of Wonder Woman. God says I’m wonderfully made (Psalm 139) and wonders are “a cause of surprise, astonishment, or admiration.” Made in His image, I am capable of amazing and wonderful things! That does not, however, remove the gift of limits. Prioritization is necessary and key.
Faced with the difficult choice of what to let go, my mind went back to a conversation I had with my coach years ago. He impressed upon me that “you will never have peace when your life is out of alignment with your values.” So…I reviewed my values list (if you don't have one, you need one), determined that having a perfect house wasn’t on the list and let it go. The same it is with you.
Are you investing your time where it matters most? Or competing with an unrealistic expectation of how much you can handle which ultimately puts YOU at the bottom of your to-do list time and time again? Something to think about.
We all have at least one "frog" in our lives - things we don't like to or don't feel like doing. The natural tendency is to put this thing off and then low and behold, we run out of time and we move it to tomorrow's to do list.
Now if we REALLY don't want to do this thing, we put it off OVER and OVER again and then weeks, maybe even months have passed and we've made absolutely NO progress simply because we never got started! This can easily happen even with tasks that we see great benefit from like planning meals and working out! We know they are necessary to reach our goals, but we just don't wanna! Am I on your street?
Here's what you need to do: EAT THAT FROG! Get it done first before you move onto other things so that it is sure to get done. "First" could mean doing your workout in the AM before you go to work because you've proven to yourself it doesn't get done after. Or if you are an evening workout person, it could mean not allowing yourself to pass go - your gym bag is in the car and you head to the gym right after work - no stops. If you workout at home, it's the FIRST thing you do, before you start dinner, watch TV, etc.
If you're SERIOUS about seeing change in your life, put this tip in place. You will get more important things done and the not-so-important stuff will finally take a back seat.
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