I'm probably dating myself a bit with this one...but back in the late 80s...early 90s there was this commercial for a medical alarm company that depicted an elderly woman falling in her home. Because she was all alone, her audio receiving device that allowed her to talk directly with a dispatch service, without the need to reach a telephone, was a lifesaver. Although the famous line was somewhat humorous...it would be anything but funny to someone who was in that situation.
Feeling all alone with no one to help you and wondering how and if you'd be able to recover. Maybe you've fallen in some way in your health and fitness journey. Maybe you gave in to temptation thinking you could stop at just one that indulgence activated a week long binge. Maybe missing one day at the gym turned into two or 3 and now you haven't been in weeks and can't seem to get motivated to get back. If you've fallen and can't seem to get up, I've got good news for you. It ain't over! You can make a comeback and be stronger than you've ever been! Have I got your attention? Good listen up.
The first thing I need you to do is:
Forgive yourself. Often we are so forgiving of others, but when was the last time you gave yourself a break? Dwelling in your mistakes does major damage to your self esteem. It makes you a prisoner when what you really need is to be set free. Let it go, forgive yourself and move on!
Step Two is to:
Learn from your mistakes. What triggered the series of events? And I need you to go deeper than the incident that just occurred. Every action that we take is a result of a thought. What thoughts led you to this place? What people, places, or things sparked that thought? Is there a bigger, underlying issue that you need to address? Learning from our mistakes is an uncomfortable process because it often involves facing and dealing with our pain. But unless we take the time to learn from our past, we are doomed to repeat it.
Last but not least, Step Three is:
Resolve and plan to do it differently next time. It may seem like you've been here so many times before that there is no hope. I'm here to tell you that there is hope. As long as you are alive, you have the potential to change. All you have to do is activate that potential by deciding not to give up and beginning again more intelligently. Use what you learned in step two to come up with a new plan.
So forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes and come up with a new game plan that sets you up for success. Don't give up on yourself; you've got this!
Originally published: September 14, 2013
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