1. Where am I now?
Dr. Phil often says "you can't change what you do not acknowledge." If you want to win in life, you have to get real about where your life is now.
Are you happy? Are you healthy? Are you living on purpose? Are your relationships - vertical and horizontal - absolutely amazing? If not, that is okay. You are not too far gone and it is not to late to turn things around. You do, however, have to be honest about what needs fixing if you are going to have a real chance at success.
If things are good right now ask yourself "what else can I do to take my impact on the world to the next level?" then go do it!
If you have not achieved the body and life of your dreams yet, move on to question 2.
2. Where do I want to go?
Scripture teaches that where there is no vision, the people perish. What we often miss is that this principle is true in every area of life. If you are not clear on where you want to go, chances are you will end up somewhere else.
In this day and age it is easy to live on autopilot. Get up, take a shower, get dressed, go to work, make great things happen, drive home, eat dinner, watch TV, and call it a night. The next day you just rinse and repeat. Before you know it, weeks, months, and years have passed and you are still stuck in the same place (or things have gotten worse).
If you are stuck in the rinse and resist cycle that is not where you have to stay. You can have, do, and become more. You just need to make a few tweaks. That brings me to question 3.
3. How did I get here?
This is the question that separates the men from the boys and the women from the girls. Jim Rohn says it well...
"The greatest form of maturity is at harvest time. This is when we must learn how to reap without complaint if the amounts are small and how to reap without apology if the amounts are big."
If you do not like where you are at right now with your weight, health, fitness level, spiritual life, career, finances, or relationships, you have to own it. No blaming. No excuses. No justifications. Just own it. Because when you do, you empower yourself to change whatever needs fixing with His help. Until you do, you will remain powerless and continue getting the opposite of what you really want. Change starts with you.
Now that you have taken ownership, it is time to explore these questions:
- What actions or inaction got me here?
- Who do I need to become to consistently produce the results I want?
- How do I plan to become that person?
Remember "failure" is just feedback and success leaves clues. The fastest, easiest way to create success in your life is to view failure as life's way of pointing you in the right direction and then follow the clues left by others who have achieved what you want.