In "What's Your Trigger?", we talked about trigger events - events or situations that lead us to an unhealthy response like skipping our exercise routine, for example. Your homework assignment was to spend a few minutes reflecting over the past week and identifying any trigger events that occurred in your life. Hopefully you took the time took the time to do so and are ready to move on to the next step. If you haven't, please consider taking the time to do that now.
Identifying your triggers was the all important first step because we can't change what we don't acknowledge. Now, we are going to go a little deeper. Our next step is to figure out WHY that event or situation triggers a certain response. What is it about feeling overwhelmed, for example, that leads us to overeat, eat unhealthily or snooze through our scheduled workout? That is the question.
Now we could take the easy way out here and say "I just felt like it." But of course that wouldn't get us anywhere, so that's out. If we really and truly want to change, we must ask ourselves, "Why do I feel this way when X happens?" Now truthfully, everyone's answer to that question could be a little different. I do believe, however, that our reasoning generally boils to this: the perception of an unmet need. When we feel that a need has gone unmet for too long or a thing is especially significant to us, there is a tendency to use food or some comforting activity to fill the void.
We sometimes meet healthy needs in unhealthy ways.
Using myself as an example again, here is how my triggers and unmet needs matchup:
Orginally published: April 8, 2011
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