At first glance, it may seem that our actions or inactions are without cause, that they just happen. But in many instances, departing from our eating or exercise plan is the result of external stimulus (i.e. a trigger) that has caused a certain reaction in us. When that reaction produces negative emotions, our response is often negative as well. Although we've made commitments to a healthier lifestyle and have made substantial progress, these types of situations can throw us of course. Now no one is perfect; we all veer from our chosen path on occasion. But what if it's more than an occasional issue? What if it happens again and again?
I've been that person. On a mission to change my life one moment and completely off course the next. I wanted things to be different, but like the driver of an out-of-control car, I didn't know how to regain control. I was all over the place. One minute I was trying Weight Watchers and hitting the gym. The next minute I was undoing everything I'd worked so hard for by consistently blowing my daily calorie allowance. I just couldn't make it stick. When I saw a Mrs. Fields in the mall, I couldn't pass them up. When I had a bad day at work, I skipped the gym and went home. Things seemed so out of balance, so far off course, that I wasn't even sure I could gain control again. So, I gave up. I quit. I threw in the towel. It looked and felt like an impossible situation, so I figured, "why try?”
Those feelings of hopelessness eventually showed up my words:
I've come to realize that once you accept something as true, it becomes a fact to you. Was I speaking truth when I said that I just couldn't help myself or that I couldn't do anything right? No. As long as we are still breathing, we have the potential to change. It wasn't that I was incapable of changing; it was that I believed I was incapable of changing that stopped my progress. Once I bought into that lie, I couldn't receive truth because...
What we say to ourselves is more important than anything anyone else says or does to us.
It wasn't until I started to open my mind to the possibility that I could change that I started getting consistent in maintaining my health. I had to replace my distorted view of the truth with my Creator's truth:
Originally published: April 9, 2011
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